“Y’all are too old to get married . . . you should just shack up!”
I was surprised how many folks have given us that advice. And you might be surprised at who has given us that advice and how seriously some, even Godly people, have been when they told us that.
The old timers used to say about common law marriages that they were living together “without the benefit of clergy”. And if there is virtue in honesty I want to be virtuous with you: Eleanor and I considered just having a wedding ceremony with the benefit of just our clergy (her preacher son) and a small gathering of family and Christian friends. We would just not buy the license required (and sold at an ridiculously excess profit) by the government.
I found that there is a lot of thought in the Christian community (just check with Google) that marriage is between the man and woman and the church community. The union and God given blessing of Christian marriage is just another area into which the state has intruded and usurped its authority. This legal “institution” was created by (and for) the benefit of attorneys and has been a financial benefit to the state. You probably agree with me that neither is anxious to forfeit their profit from the practice.
As soon as we are “legally” married, Eleanor will loose a substantial financial income. Her husband was a retired Air Force fighter pilot and she receives generous benefits in pension as well as insurance and PX privileges. Now, there’s enough to challenge whether your commitment to honesty and integrity is heartfelt or just lip service 🙂
But after wrestling thru a night of prayer and searching the Scriptures, we have come to the conclusion that we must “provide things honest in the sight of all men” (Romans 12:7). And especially in the sight of our dear GRANDchildren. We want to walk honestly as in the day” (Romans 13:13). Eleanor and I are committed to “walk worthy of the vocation wherewith we are called” (Ephesians 4:1). Please pray that we will “press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:14). Pray that we will diligently “Take heed to the ministry which <we> have received in the Lord, that <we> fulfill it.” (Colossians 4:17)
Our wedding is planned for February 4. HALLELUJAH! Our hearts’s desire is to keep on serving our blessed Lord and to finish well!